Wednesday, June 5, 2013

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Rejection and First Loves: 5 flirting Mistakes that get Men rejected and how to avoid them

Rejection and First Loves: 5 flirting Mistakes that get Men rejected and how to avoid them

While most men consider flirting to be fun, it can be scary if done wrongly. If you fail to do it in the right way, you will be rejected in no time. There are 5 key flirting mistakes that you must avoid if you want to flirt correctly.

A Female friend- A female friend can be of help with dating because she is well aware of what the likes of the opposite sex are. The problem is that the woman you intend to find may not like that. The reason is that she may conclude that you are a coward and therefore, you just can't find someone without help. The best thing is for you to avoid overusing the female friend as you try to land that special person.

Bragging carelessly- There is no problem with you sharing your skills, job and other things about yourself, with that special woman. However, you must not sound like you are bragging about it. For example, avoid coming out and talking about your big salary or successful career. A woman can see the kind of clothes that you wear, where you live, as well as the type of car you are driving. Such things are enough to tell her that you are truly well off.

Talk about you only-Talking about yourself only is a huge turn off. Try focusing on listening and not talking. You may notice that it is you who is doing all the talking; you can encourage the girl to also tell you about herself by letting her know that you are willing to learn about her. Being a good listener will make the woman appreciate you more than when you speak too much.

Horrible pick up lines- In general, pick up lines are great and cute when sharing with friends. However, you must avoid using them on a girl that you intend to date. When you use those lines repeatedly, you will make the girl feel as if she is just like any other woman in your life. Try and be you in that if you use any pick up, they should be very simple.

Not showing kindness and care- there are some men who are not aware that every woman values a man who is caring and kind. A woman will know that you appreciate her by showing some kindness and care especially when you meet her for the first time. That one instant can make her fall for you.

 

 

 

 

Why Is Your Relationship Falling Apart?

Why Is Your Relationship Falling Apart?

Sometimes things move so fast that it becomes hard to understand why your relationship is not working the way you want it to work. Here are a few suggestions that can help you identify the problems that may be the cause of damage to your relationship:

You've let everyone get too involved.  It is good to ask for advice when you are facing problems but involving a third person too much can create even a worse problem.  Always keep in mind it's your issue and you are responsible for solving it. Don't let others judge every move of yours.

You don't pay attention anymore. Whether it is something about your partner's interest or something that they want to talk to you about but you don't bother to listen, it means there is a problem and it should be solved as soon as possible.

You feel unsatisfied for some reason.  It can be the case where there is no apparent issue involved but still you feel unsatisfied or unhappy.  You should express your feelings to your partner.

You treat the other person as second best.  In a relationship everyone is equal and if you start taking another person for granted or treat them as second best, such attitude can harm your relationship to a great extent. You should set your priorities straight if you really want your relationship to work.

You try to avoid or walk away from a situation. No one feels good when things are not moving in the right direction but that doesn't mean you should run away from them. Avoiding may lead to more serious damage.

You blame the other person for every wrong doing.  If you start blaming your partner for anything that goes wrong in your love life, it means it isn't working or moving in the right direction.

You feel embarrassed because of them.  You may not realize but sometimes your actions speak louder than your words. You shouldn't feel embarrassed of your partner if you really love them.

You think you're always right.  You can't be always right that's a true fact, and you don't have the right to make your partner feel bad about everything that they do. If such thing is a frequent part of your relationship, it means it has reached the melting point. Something needs to be done on an urgent basis otherwise even couples counselling might not help you.

 

How Old Are You, Really?

How Old Are You, Really?:

Psych-Quotes: Face Reading: What Your Eyebrow Shape Means

Psych-Quotes: Face Reading: What Your Eyebrow Shape Means:

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Face Reading: What Your Eyebrow Shape Means Eyebrows = your mental outlook or point of view Even if you pluck, or draw on them, they still reflect the mental outlook that feels right for you. Most eyebrows do not exactly match each other: In this case, the left eyebrow = personal life, while the right eyebrow = our external world. Directions: Choose the eyebrow(s) that most looks like your own and enjoy reading about yourself Advice: Be open-minded about this. If you think this is bull-, then you must’ve ignored the details of each eyebrow example. Give it another chance and look at other people’s eyebrow shapes besides your own, and see if they agree with their own explanation. BASIC SHAPES: Curved Eyebrows: Your mental focus is people-oriented. You connect & relate to the world best through your understanding of people. Sometimes you can understand an idea or theory better if it is explained to you in terms of a personal example or experience. It is best not to burden you with too much technical detail without showing you the real-world application (usefulness). Straight Eyebrows: Your approach is direct and factual, and you want the technical details. You appreciate logic, and you will need to be shown all the facts and available data before accepting something as true. You mentally evaluate the hard facts without letting emotion effect your judgement. Angled Eyebrows: If is important for you to stay mentally in control of any situation in which you find yourself. Gregarious and expansive, you may have good leadership qualities because few people will challenge your authority. You like to be right and usually are, having conscientiously done your homework. You stay mentally focused. POSITION: High Eyebrows: You are discerning, selective, and discriminating. You need time to observe and work out ideas completely before acting. You protect yourself with a wait-and-see approach. You need time to put new information for you to understand how you feel about the subject and how the parts relate to the whole. You store information with an emotional tab; by recalling the feeling, you can often recall the event with surprising clarity. You detest being put on the spot to make a snap assessment or to make a decision about something new before you have had time to reflect on it and understand it. Low Eyebrows: You are expressive, quick to take action and you process information quickly. You want to get the job done and do it now. You may have a tendency to interrupt others when they seem too slow to speak because you can often anticipate what they are going to say before they have finished saying it. You are initially optimistic but may become antagonistic if criticized. Your challenge is to develop more patience with others who dont have your gift of mental quickness. SPECIFIC TYPES: Bushy: You are a mentally active person, full of thoughts and ideas. Bushy eyebrows can indicate a powerful intellect. You are a non-stop thinker. Thin (like a pencil line): You are single-minded, focusing on one thing at a time. Your challenge is being overly sensitive to how you imagine others see you. You probably think they are more critical than they really are. You sometimes feel overly self-conscious. Winged (thick at beginning, becoming thinner at ends): You need to be on the planning committee! You love coming up with big, new ideas. Your visionary approach allows you to create exciting new plans, but your challenge is with follow-through. Delegate details to someone else to free yourself up to focus on your grand vision.  Even (same thickness throughout length): Your thoughts flow smoothly, evenly and you easily grasp whole concepts. Your challenge is developing a tolerance for other peoples difficulty with detail. By your mental standards, the rest of the world may seem slow or even unable to fully comprehend ideas. Managerial (thin at beginning, thicker at outer edges): You may be slow to start something new, but once a task is accepted, you have great follow-through. Mentally tidy, well-organized, and methodical, you do well in any roles that requires attention to detail and completion. You dot all the is and cross all the ts Continuous/Uni-brow: Your thoughts are continuous and restless. Your challenge is to learn to mentally rest and relax. If you have a problem, you may have trouble sleeping because you cant stop thinking. Meditation helps. Tangled hairs (eyebrow hairs tangle): Your wild eyebrows signal that you are an unconventional thinker whose thoughts range over many areas, This gives you the ability to see all sides of an issue, and you may enjoy playing devils advocate to discover hidden truths. Your unusual mind may also attract unwanted conflict. If youre getting more conflict than you want, try combing your eyebrows! Access hairs (hairs growing straight up at beginning): You have a strong connection between your inner feelings and your logical thinking. You have an ability to be aware of potential problems immediately. Access hairs on the right side indicate that you spot problems in business and the public area. On the left side, they indicate you anticipate (expect/predict) potential problems in relationships. Scattered hairs (single hairs outside of eyebrows): Your focus is wide ranging. You have a curious mind and are mentally drawn to many different topics. Each individual hair could almost be read as a separate mental interest. Your challenge is remaining focused on a single topic. Chameleon (nearly invisible eyebrows): Your eyebrows do not give you away. Others may think you are just like them, whether you are not. You can blend into almost any group and you may be a talented negotiator because you can extract more information than you reveal.  SOURCE: Amazing Face Reading By Mac Fuller, J.D. In fact, your whole face can be analyzed. The eyes, the pupils, the nose, cheeks, chin, jaw, forehead, dimples, lips, teeth, ears, profile…etc have meaning. This is why not everyone looks exactly the same.

  • Eyebrows = your mental outlook or point of view
  • Even if you pluck, or draw on them, they still reflect the mental outlook that feels right for you.
  • Most eyebrows do not exactly match each other: In this case, the left eyebrow = personal life, while the right eyebrow = our external world.
  • Directions: Choose the eyebrow(s) that most looks like your own and enjoy reading about yourself
  • Advice: Be open-minded about this. If you think this is bull-, then you must've ignored the details of each eyebrow example. Give it another chance and look at other people's eyebrow shapes besides your own, and see if they agree with their own explanation.

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What color matches up with your personality?

What color matches up with your personality? :

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This link is a 10 question survey asking questions about your personality. It helps determine which color best matches it. I got red! Let me know what you got :)

Mind Motivation: How to Be Productive

Mind Motivation: How to Be Productive:

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Do you need to get stuff done, and are tired of sitting on the couch, procrastinating? If so, then it's time for you to get productive!

  1. Go to bed early. If you're not getting enough sleep, then you're going to want to nap throughout the day.
  2. Set your alarm, and get up as soon as it goes off. Don't hit the snooze button over and over and end up oversleeping.
  3. Eat a healthy breakfast. This may include fruit, cereal, or juice. This will give you energy that will last throughout the whole day.
  4. If your room's a mess, clean up! It has been proven that if your surroundings are neat and tidy, then you will be more motivated to be productive.
  5. Make a to-do list. List everything you would like to accomplish for the day, and check each item off as you finish them. This will make you feel like you are making progress!
  6. After you finish each item, give yourself a reward. Maybe you'll have a yummy snack, or after you finish all your items, you'll treat yourself to a movie.
  7. Don't procrastinate or take long breaks! You'll feel unmotivated to finish your work if you put it off.

Tips for being more Empathetic Part 1

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Today, I feel like writing about an article on how to be more Empathetic because I feel that we as people often get really caught up in our own internal world that we forget/fail to see the world of those who we are engaging in interactions with. For example, these people could be our lovers, friends, families or even strangers. You listen to their stories and you most likely like more caring individuals want to do something for them. But you don't really know how because you don't really know how they'll perceive your actions. And sometimes you may think that your actions are benefiting them when in reality it is making things worse for them. Let me first give a few examples of counter-empathetic responses: 

1. Advice Giving. - When we tell someone something, we are not necessarily looking for advice, but just to be heard. This is true especially if it's a problem the individual has been facing for a really long time. If even they can't find a resolution to their own problems, how do you expect that your advice is going to help them? Furthermore, advices sometimes minimizes a person's experiences, because giving advice sort of shows that you understand their experiences better than they understand theirs. When giving advice, be really cautious and try to really think in their perspective and see if the advice would really be what they need. 

2. Criticizing. The last thing we need is someone criticizing our actions or choices of actions that had led to our problems. There is a time and place for criticisms, but when someone first open up to you, never criticize. If you want to give constructive feedback, frame the feedbacks as questions. For example, instead of saying "You shouldn't have done that, because it's what led you to the problem" you could say "What if you have done this instead? Would the results have been different?" 

3. Talking more than the other person. When someone is opening up, you want to encourage them to keep talking. If you find yourself talking more than them, then you are taking the experiences of opening up away from them. Keep your mouth shut and only speak to convey empathy. This encourages the other person to speak more and it communicates that you are listening. 

4. Self-disclosing about yourself when the other person is the one opening up. For example, when you say "Me too" , "I've been in a similar situation," or "This has happened to me too so let me talk about myself as well." I'm sort of guilty for this at times because I can't help it but be able to relate to others in some aspects. Sometimes, I want to bond a little closer so I self-disclose. However, self-disclosure is risky because you are essentially comparing your experiences to someone else and you're communicating that there experiences are not really that unique. Be really careful how you self-disclose and mindful if it communicates empathy or not. Self-disclosure can make you more authentic as a person because it shows the other person you could relate to them, and it can encourage the other person to open up knowing that you've been there too and they might seek advice from someone's who's been through it. Sometimes, the people we want to seek advice from are the ones who's been through what we've been through. 

How Old Are You, Really?

How Old Are You, Really?:

Neurolove.me: 10 Mistakes A Single Woman Makes

Neurolove.me: 10 Mistakes A Single Woman Makes:

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10 Mistakes A Single Woman Makes

When your relationship is not going the way you would want,  you start thinking about how lucky single women are because they don't have to deal with such a rut. But in reality, there are a few mistakes that single women make that you need to keep away from:

1.       Living with unrealistic expectations.  Although there is no harm in expecting a little bit extra from your love life but carrying unrealistic expectations in your heart will cause ache. An arrogant attitude starts to build up inside you and you even yourself remain unaware of it.

 

2.       Not getting on with your life because you're single. Being single has nothing to do with how you get on with your life but a single woman sometimes uses her singleness as an excuse for not living her life to the full extent.

 

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Which College Major Is Right For You?

Which College Major Is Right For You? :

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What did you get? Feel free to share your result! 

Six types of Love

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Eros

a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love

Ludus 
a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest; may have multiple partners at once

Storge
an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity

Pragma 
love that is driven by the head, not the heart

Mania
obsessive love; experience great emotional highs and lows; very possessive and often jealous lovers

Agape
selfless altruistic love; spiritual

10 Signs Someone is Interested in You

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1. They stand closer to you or they keep a smaller distance when they're around you. It shows that they are comfortable with you and want to get physically intimate. 

2. They are more likely to face you when talking to you as opposed to standing sideways or away from you. However, if they are shy, then maybe this point won't apply so much. Instead, they will periodically take glimpses at you when you're not looking. 

3. They'd try to get your attention for trivial things such as calling you about what homework they have or when the homework is due. 

4. They smile more frequently because of you. Even if they don't show it while around you because they don't want you to find out they like you, they will smile when they think of you. 

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Mind Motivation

Mind Motivation:

3 Key Factors to Strengthen Your Relationship

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Relationship Counselling:  3 Key Factors to Strengthen Your Relationship

Every other person has to deal with different sorts of relationship problems. For some individuals it is an embarrassment to ask for help if their relationship is in a turmoil. In reality, if you make an effort, you can contribute towards strengthening your love life. The three key factors that you need to work on include:

1.       Stay involved and do things together. After a while, couples find it hard to maintain an active participation in each other's activities especially if they are facing problems with each other.  Do things in a creative manner, try to find activities on a common ground. May be you both like to go out for a walk or enjoy cooking together, whatever it is, such activities provide you the opportunity to talk to each other about things that matter to you.

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Are You In A Relationship Crisis? Relationship Counseling Can Be The Answer

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Are You In A Relationship Crisis? Relationship Counseling Can Be The Answer

Many couples think of relationship counseling as a negative thing, but in reality if any sort of conflict arises between two partners they should seek professional help if they remain unable to solve the issue on their own. You should ask for professional help if you spot one or more of these relationship problems.

1.       Do you communicate with each other? Whether it is regarding your day to day activities or a serious issue, if the answer is no then you should go for a good counseling session.

 

2.       Evaluate your level of communication. Evaluate on the basis of certain situations where you find it extremely hard to communicate with each other. Think about all the situations when you work together to make specific decisions and where one person is dominating the conversations as compared to the other person.

 

3.       How do you deal with each other when disagreements arise? Are you able to keep a cool head or both of you burst at each other when certain sort of disagreement arises. It's better to go for counseling before you reach your end point.

 

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15 Hilariously Bad Breakup Texts

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Psych-Quotes: 6 Ways to really love the people in your life

Psych-Quotes: 6 Ways to really love the people in your life :

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1. Tell them how great they are and how much you appreciate them.

2. Be genuine and real in your relationships. Don't pretend and wear a mask but share your true, authentic self.

3. Note, however, that being genuine doesn't mean always dumping your garbage on those around you. Be respectful of their needs and feelings too – and recognise that we influence and affect others' moods. That is, we can choose to either brighten or pollute the atmosphere.

4. Be a great listener. We feel loved and valued when others really listen to us (and demonstrate they're listening through their nonverbal cues).   

5. Don't try to fix, change and make them into different people. Instead, provide them with the freedom to simpy be themselves.

6. We don't have to agree with, or respect, each others' choices in order to have a good relationship with them. We can still be kind, and just agree to disagree.

Psych-Quotes: Top 10 Common Dreams and Their Meanings

Psych-Quotes: Top 10 Common Dreams and Their Meanings:

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Car Troubles
In these types of dreams you are usually in or near a car or some other type of vehicle which is out of control or has other problems that seem insurmountable. For example, the brakes may have failed, you may have lost control of the steering, or be heading over a cliff or crashing. You can either be the driver or the passenger. This is a very common type of nightmare and it occurs in all people – not just those who can drive. This dream usually means that you are feeling powerless over something in your life – or that you are heading for a crash (metaphorically speaking).


Faulty Machinery
In the faulty machinery dream you are trying to operate mechanical equipment which either fails to work, or fails to work in the way that you expect it to. The vast majority of these dreams involve a telephone – either trouble dialing, losing a connection, or dialing a wrong number. It can involve a lost Internet connection, or something manual like a jammed or broken machine. This dream often means that you feel you are losing touch with reality, or that a part of your body or mind is not functioning as it should. It can also occur when you are feeling anxious about making a connection with another person in real life.


Lost or Trapped
Dreaming about being lost is very common and will usually occur when you are having conflict in deciding how to react in a situation in real life. In the dream you are trying to find your way out of an area – such as a forest, city streets, a large building, or other maze-like structure. Another way this dream plays out involves you being trapped, buried alive, caught in a web, or unable to move for some other reason. This is often accompanied by a feeling of terror. This dream usually means that you are trapped in real life – unable to make the right choice.

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Everything You Should Know About Couples Counselling

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Everything You Should Know About Couples Counselling

Facing pressures is a part of life but if you experience stress in your relationship, it can cause a lot of other problems. It's better to seek couples counselling before things start to get worse. Here are a few things that you should know about couples counselling:

1.       You find it easy to address some major issues. Whether you feel pressurised or feel depressed because of your relationship but remain unable to say anything to your partner. In such a situation, relationship counselling enables you both to address all of your concerns without any hesitation. You get a chance to express your true feelings without feeling oppressed by your partner.

 

2.       Your issues are dealt with in a customised way. Based on what you are going through and what sort of problem solving techniques would be suitable to tackle your issues, your counsellor may come up with appropriate solutions. He will provide you solutions that are specifically designed to resolve your common issues.

 

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Psych-Quotes: 10 Tips To Help Be More Productive

Psych-Quotes: 10 Tips To Help Be More Productive :

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Being productive is all about building a lifestyle that enables just that. Here are some tips that can help you develop habits enabling productivity in your work place. 

1. Remove all distractions from your life. For example, deactivate FaceBook or use site blockers. Cancel plans that do not contribute to what you have to do that take up energy and time. 

2. Write a do-list the night before or in the morning. Set specific and small tasks. For example, instead of just planning 'read chapter 6' which might be too big of a task to complete in one day, write 'read pages 234-260.' This is much more specific and also much more reasonable because it accounts for how many pages you have to read. Furthermore, it helps you if you set estimated time to do each tasks. For example, 'Read pages 234-260 between 3:30 and 4:40.' Writing down the estimated time puts how much time you actually have in the day to do things in perspective.

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